Highly Sensitive Person's Guide to Joy

So, you just learned that you are highly sensitive. (If you haven’t taken the quiz and want to, click here.)

For some, this is no surprise.

For me, it was a shock. I am an entrepreneur. I run marathons, have backpacked to 35 countries and grew up in hyper-competitive schools and corporate settings starting at age 4.

I can’t be sensitive.

Yet I am a 22 out of 27. Classic.

According to Dr. Aaron, sensitive people are very conscientious and gifted with great intelligence, intuition and imagination, but they operate differently that the dominant “warrior” personality type. Historically they have been the visionaries, healers and creatives.

When I think about it, begin sensitive has helped me in so many ways. Being too sensitive to settle for “good enough” gave me the courage to become an entrepreneur. Being able to sense where people are allows me to guide them on a much deeper level. A strong spiritual core gives me the gratitude and trust to continually evolve.

Here is my Highly Sensitive Person’s Guide to Joy:

#1. Give up “Doing it All” and Be What You Are

Trying to do it all is counterproductive. Start from your core – who are you? Are you a Visionary, Creative, Healer, Lover? What do you want to create today?

To protect yourself from getting roped into doing it all, plan each day from a high level every morning. List the 1 or 2 Big Rocks that must be done that day on a Post-it to keep you focused.

#2. Trust Your Intuition

You have much stronger intuition than most. And it is usually right on. Listen to the little voice. Follow you heart, it will never steer you wrong. It will either steer you to the right thing, or to the lesson that helps you evolve.

#3. Ditch “Just Get Over It” and Accept Your Feelings

Ever tried to push away your anger or inner critic? What happens? It gets stronger, or comes back later.

The trick is to accept and acknowledge your feelings. There is a good reason for them. In accepting them, they soften. From this calm wisdom, you can see what caused them and what you need to do to resolve them.

#4. Routine Care & Mediation

Put your oxygen mask on first. Create a routine of regular care and mediation so you function in your optimal state.

#5. Eat Well: Swap Coffee & Sugar for Vegetables and Omega 3s 

Caffeine and sugar can produce anxiety, reactiveness and make you tired. Instead, eat foods that give you balance, like wild caught salmon, walnuts and green leafy vegetables. 

I want to hear from you! What are your top strategies to manage your sensitivity? Please share below 🙂

xo

Adelma

Sensitivity in Love

Love is beautiful… BUT sometimes getting there is tricky. Believe me, I know. With such deep emotion, it can be easy to get thrown off.

Bringing your relationship closer together is all about nurturing an honest connection. This is especially important for sensitive people, who experience stronger feelings than most (like me).

This Valentine’s Day instead of a Teddy Gram, give the gift of closeness. Here are some ideas that really work:

#1 Be honest with yourself: embrace your feelings

We want to feel good all the time, so the natural inclination is to push away intense feelings. Unfortunately, pushing them away only makes them stronger. To make matters worse, hiding out distances you and often causes a blow up later. It never works.

Embracing your feelings, especially when you are hurt, is key.

Next time, try breathing deeply into your hurt feeling, whether it is fear or anger or longing. It will soften much more quickly. Once you return to a calm perspective, you can approach the situation with new eyes.

Next, determine what triggered your reaction.

#2 Be honest with your partner

If it was the current situation, say someone was late to a movie, ask yourself what you desire in the long term. Is it to appreciate each other and treat each other with respect? Approaching the situation from that perspective will set a connected tone. Be honest but simple with your partner. Use I statements to show how you feel. For example, “I love being with you, but when you are late, I don’t feel cherished. It is hard for me to count on you for big things if I can’t count on you for small things.” It may feel tough to say this but harboring resentment is worse. A who partner cherishes you appreciates your honesty. That is the kind of partner you want.

On the flip side, when your partner has a concern, listen, appreciate where they are coming from and make it right. Then let it go and have fun together.

#3 Do the work

Other times, your reaction is a familiar feeling you have had for years, such as feeling abandoned. Your partner may have triggered it, but he or she did not create it. If it is coming up frequently, it is probably holding you back. Doing the work to release this feeling, likely from childhood, will be highly effective.

As always, if you like this post, please leave a comment below!

xo

Adelma