Highly Sensitive Person's Guide to Joy

So, you just learned that you are highly sensitive. (If you haven’t taken the quiz and want to, click here.)

For some, this is no surprise.

For me, it was a shock. I am an entrepreneur. I run marathons, have backpacked to 35 countries and grew up in hyper-competitive schools and corporate settings starting at age 4.

I can’t be sensitive.

Yet I am a 22 out of 27. Classic.

According to Dr. Aaron, sensitive people are very conscientious and gifted with great intelligence, intuition and imagination, but they operate differently that the dominant “warrior” personality type. Historically they have been the visionaries, healers and creatives.

When I think about it, begin sensitive has helped me in so many ways. Being too sensitive to settle for “good enough” gave me the courage to become an entrepreneur. Being able to sense where people are allows me to guide them on a much deeper level. A strong spiritual core gives me the gratitude and trust to continually evolve.

Here is my Highly Sensitive Person’s Guide to Joy:

#1. Give up “Doing it All” and Be What You Are

Trying to do it all is counterproductive. Start from your core – who are you? Are you a Visionary, Creative, Healer, Lover? What do you want to create today?

To protect yourself from getting roped into doing it all, plan each day from a high level every morning. List the 1 or 2 Big Rocks that must be done that day on a Post-it to keep you focused.

#2. Trust Your Intuition

You have much stronger intuition than most. And it is usually right on. Listen to the little voice. Follow you heart, it will never steer you wrong. It will either steer you to the right thing, or to the lesson that helps you evolve.

#3. Ditch “Just Get Over It” and Accept Your Feelings

Ever tried to push away your anger or inner critic? What happens? It gets stronger, or comes back later.

The trick is to accept and acknowledge your feelings. There is a good reason for them. In accepting them, they soften. From this calm wisdom, you can see what caused them and what you need to do to resolve them.

#4. Routine Care & Mediation

Put your oxygen mask on first. Create a routine of regular care and mediation so you function in your optimal state.

#5. Eat Well: Swap Coffee & Sugar for Vegetables and Omega 3s 

Caffeine and sugar can produce anxiety, reactiveness and make you tired. Instead, eat foods that give you balance, like wild caught salmon, walnuts and green leafy vegetables. 

I want to hear from you! What are your top strategies to manage your sensitivity? Please share below 🙂

xo

Adelma

Joy at the Core (The secret to career fulfillment)

A lot of people ask me: “how did you know what you wanted to do?” And more to the point, “how do I know what I really want, what brings me fulfillment?

This is one of the toughest questions for many of us. We can DO very well. Give me a goal and I’ll figure out a way to get there with a plan, timeline, bullet points etc.

That’s not the point. The point is what do you want?

We think we SHOULD know and so we put all this pressure on ourselves. Then when it doesn’t appear, we give up.

My process was 100% unscientific, and long. Though now I have done itI can reverse engineer it for you, along with a huge dose of intuition and reading people.

I truly believe that following your joy is the key to finding the right fit and creating fulfillment. 

The reason I focus 30% of my time on food is only partially because of how good it feels to get health issues like hormones, weight and hypertension sorted out. Feeling good for the next 40 years is well worth the investment. I absolutely want this for everyone, which is why I did a post MBA degree in nutrition.

But the real reason is that food is a daily pleasure, a practice of joy. If you are not there yet, it’s ok. You will get there.

Once joy became my experience (instead of fear, self judgment and anger), it led me to explore other sources of joy, which brought me to this work.

The more I explored, the more “right” it felt. Until I just had to do it. The fear of judgment and economic uncertainty melted. (More on that next time).

So here’s a fun challenge: explore your joy this holiday

Show a little love and leave a comment below – what’s your joy?

xo

Adelma

‘Tis the season of joy! I hope you are feeling it already. I know I am.

The thing about joy is that it is something we choose and cultivate every day. Like putting up a Christmas tree, or making this lamb sweet potato stew which makes my house smell amazingly cozy and warm.

One of the simplest ways to create joy is to practice gratitude. When you feel grateful, you simply cannot be stressed or angry, two of the biggest blocks to joy.

Try this: before you fall asleep, list 5 things you are grateful for, one on each finger. This will bring an immediate sense of peace and creates sweeter dreams.

Here’s what I am grateful for:

  1. My loving, supportive friends and family – too many to list.
  2. A career I love helping clients find the nutrition & life that work for them.
  3. Growing self-acceptance, trust and patience (instead of my old classic – forcing).
  4. The nourishing food on my table and roof over my head.
  5. My health and the strength in my body.

Research shows gratitude helps people feel more positive emotions, enjoy good experiences, improve health and better deal with adversity.

What are you grateful for? Leave a comment below.

In Gratitude,

Adelma