Let’s face it, after dating for a while, we build barriers to protect our hearts. Breaking down barriers to love requires courage. But it’s worth it.
I was just working with an amazing client last night who is doing a beautiful job of seeing and breaking down her barriers. She reminded me of my own ‘strategy,’ which was dating unavailable men.
I didn’t even realize what I was doing until I took a step back and had a hard look at my patterns. Once I owned it, I asked myself: “WHY — what’s in it for me?” The answer went deep into the sinkhole that lived in my heart: “it’s not going to work out for me, so why date someone real? I deserve at least this bit of fun.” Ick.
Except I deserved all. Once I let go of that tired old story that it wasn’t serving me, I met the man that is my all a few weeks later.
Other common protection strategies include hiding in work or with friends, staying stuck on your ex and not asking for what you need.
If you are ready to take a deep breath and break down your barriers to love, ask yourself:
- Do you have a “protection strategy”?
- How is it benefiting you?
- What is it costing you?
If you are ready to break down your barriers and open up to a healthy, satisfying relationship, please join me at Empowered Dating Saturday, November 8th. This is for small groups of 8 so reserve your spot today before it sells out!
PS – If you are not in NYC but you want a similar workshop in your area or online, just hit reply and let me know what you’re looking for.